The Gay Question: the Way Forward (Conclusion)
In my last post, I argued that the key question facing the churches on “the gay issue” is no longer the question of acceptance but the question of reconciliation. That is, the question is no longer “Will the churches accept homosexuals as full, normal members of their communities?”, but “How do the churches now respond to the generations of people harmed by the traditional anti-homosexual stance?”
For Christians, I think this reconciliation will mean two things: 1) truth; 2) forgiveness.
I believe that, on a spiritual level, the anti-homosexual stance in the churches has manifested above all in one particular vice: lying.
The whole issue is clothed in untruth, deception, deflection, and euphemism. Gay people have pretended they were straight. Spouses have pretended their partners were heterosexual. Children have pretended their parents’ marriage was normal. Obviously gay youth have been treated as if they were straight. Everyone has known that a particular celibate pastor/monk/religious/priest is gay, but no one has spoken of it. Gay people are excluded from communion but no one is told why, or the issue is only spoken of in hushed tones. Many people realize that others are being repressed and hurt, but never speak out. Many completely disagree with the traditional position but keep silent. Everywhere it’s lies, fear, repression.
“…He was a murderer from the beginning, and he does not stand in the truth, because there is no truth in him. When he lies, he speaks according to his own nature, for he is a liar and the father of lies…”
We desperately need the cleansing, purifying power of honesty. We need truth.